Do you ever have days when you can’t do anything right? Days where one little thing after another piles up on top of each other until you want to go back to bed and start over?
I do. I run late for an appointment, I drop something and it breaks, I overcook lunch and under cook dinner, my daughter falls and hurts herself, and a simple task ends up taking me hours to figure out.
When I reach the point of wanting to go back to bed, I’m feeling completely defeated. I am worn out and worn down, and I just want to hit the reset button.
This is the work of the enemy. It has his name written all over it. He loves to make us feel defeated.
When enough things go wrong in one day, he starts whispering lies:
“You can’t do anything right can you?”
“You aren’t smart enough to do _____(whatever it is you are working on).”
“A good mom wouldn’t have let that happen.”
While I can acknowledge these as lies now, in the midst of a day where everything goes wrong, they can sound pretty convincing. After all, I did run late, break something, ruin two meals, let my daughter get hurt, and struggled to complete a simple task…sounds like a failure to me.
These are dangerous thoughts to entertain. If I let the lies get to me then I start thinking: “Why am I even trying? Clearly I am not capable,” or “It is pointless to even try to do _____ well, I should just give up.”
This is exactly what the enemy wants: for us to give up, especially if we are trying to fulfill God’s purpose for our lives (which includes being a good wife and mother!).
So what are we supposed to do? We can’t avoid days like these. They happen to everyone, and we can’t control it, right?
Perhaps not, but there is one thing we can always control: our response. We don’t have to believe the lies of the enemy. We don’t have to give into those feelings of failure and defeat. We can choose to fight.
Instead of focusing on our mistakes, we must turn our focus to God.
For God is our refuge.
“God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble.” Psalm 46:1
He is our defender and our protector.
“How I love you, Lord! You are my defender. The Lord is my protector; He is my strong fortress.” Psalm 18: 1-2
I’ve developed five strategies for combating this defeated feeling. I hope they’ll encourage you the next time you have one of those days.
5 Ways to Beat Defeat
I tell God I am feeling defeated and ask for his truth to reign in my life and give me strength.
2. Ask someone else to pray.
I struggle to pray when you feel defeated. If I am feeling beaten down, then I ask a friend to pray for me. If my husband is home, I ask him to pray out loud over me.
3. Read the Bible.
God’s word is full of truth for my life, and there is no better way to combat lies than with truth. Plus, reading the Bible restores my joy.
“When your words came, I ate them; they were my joy and my heart’s delight, for I bear your name, Lord God Almighty.” Jeremiah 15:1
4. Turn on Christian music and sing along.
This idea came from a dear friend of mine who once told me, “It is hard for Satan to attack you when you are praising Jesus.” Amen sister! I’ve experienced the truth of her remark.
5. Speak God’s promises out loud.
Declaring God’s promises out loud is powerful. I like to remind myself that I am a child of God—chosen, worth, and precious in God’s site. When I remember who I am and to whom I belong, it’s hard to continue feeling defeated.
We cannot be defeated as long as God is on our side.
So the next time you are ready to admit defeat, remember you have a wonderful God who saves.
Just turn to Him.
“but they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint.” Isaiah 40:31 (ESV)