Today I am excited to have Kris Reece here to share about overcoming worried, anxious, and toxic thoughts by renewing your mind. I love her practical steps for putting Romans 12:2 into practice and hope you will give her a warm welcome in the comments.
On a cold March morning, I was jolted out of a peaceful sleep by the sound of my alarm. My mind immediately started re-hashing the stress of the previous day. These thoughts were only interrupted by feelings of frustration for my husband’s lack of appreciation for all I did.
I spent the rest of the morning bouncing back and forth between worry about my work situation and disgust over how I felt my husband should change. By the time I climbed into the car to drive my daughter to school, I was exhausted.
I drove straight to work, completely forgetting to drop my daughter off at kindergarten. Oh my! Where was my head?
In hindsight, my daughter and I get a chuckle out this story, but at the time, I was overwhelmed and miserable. It wasn’t my circumstances that made me feel so helpless and exhausted—it was my thinking.
I didn’t see the pitfalls of having 10 thoughts constantly bouncing around in my mind. I actually thought I needed to be fretting about multiple things at once because it meant I was “figuring things out.” Nothing could have been further from the truth.
When I pulled into the work parking lot with my daughter still in the car, I realized something needed to change. Maybe you’ve reach this same realization? If so, I’m here to help.
Romans 12:2 tells us “Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.”
I love this scripture because it promises God will bring about change—He will transform us—if we will renew our minds.
The catch is that many of us don’t know how to renew our minds. You can’t simply tell yourself to stop thinking about something—the worried mind is like a dog with a bone; it doesn’t want to let go of the anxious thoughts.
Instead of trying to simply will yourself out of toxic thought patterns, follow these intentional steps.
4 Steps for Renewing your Mind
Step 1: Capture the thought.
2 Corinthians 10:5 tells us to take every thought captive and make it obedient to Christ. Therefore, we must first identify what we’re thinking about.
Step 2: Interrogate the thought.
When you notice a negative thought, ask questions such as, “Where did this come from?” and “Why am I having this thought?” Asking these questions can begin to reveal deeper issues, such as areas of your life that need healing.
Step 3: Line the thought up with Truth.
God’s Word is truth and is good for refuting lies. For example, if you’re worrying about finances, remember God’s word says He will supply all of your needs (Philippians 4:19). When you compare your thoughts to God’s word, you know which thoughts to keep and which to get rid of.
Step 4. Rewrite your thought
Once you’ve identified the lie you are believing and found the Truth to refute the lie, you need to apply it by putting it in your own words. You see, when a thought is in your own words, you’re more likely to believe it. So, create your new thought and keep repeating it out loud until it makes the journey from your head to your heart.
Even when circumstances are out of your control, the way you think is completely within your power to change.
If you are struggling with renewing your mind, I want you to know there is help. I wrote a book called Build a Beautiful Life Out of Broken Pieces to help you overcome those troublesome thoughts and get back in control of your mind and your life.
P.S. Not sure if your thoughts are toxic? Find out here—take the FREE assessment to see “How Toxic are Your Thoughts?”
Kris Reece desires to see others pick up the broken pieces of their lives and build something beautiful. Kris holds a Ph.D. in Christian Counseling and a Master’s Degree in Theology. As a Personal Development Coach, Relationship Coach, Christian Counselor, Author and Speaker, her passion is to help women unleash their hidden potential and become everything they were created to be. Kris is the author of Build a Beautiful Life Out of Broken Pieces and The Sacred Seven: A Guidebook to Unlocking the 7 Desires God Has Placed in the Heart of Every Woman .