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When I hit publish on 3 Verses to Tame Your Tongue almost four years ago, I never imagined how many people would relate to my struggle to keep biting words from escaping my mouth. As of today, that post has been shared over 81,500 times!

Countless readers have reached out to me, thanking me for the verses and the prayer I shared because they too are working on taming their tongue. Clearly, this is a common struggle, which is why I wanted to write a follow-up post.

You see, I’ve learned something important in the past three and a half years about taming your tongue, it’s not actually a tongue issue. The blames lies in the heart.

Jesus said, “But what comes out of the mouth proceeds from the heart, and this defiles a person.” (Matthew 15:18 ESV)

He gets even more to the point in Matthew 12:34-37. “How can you speak good, when you are evil? For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. The good person out of his good treasure brings forth good, and the evil person out of this evil treasure brings forth evil. I tell you, on the day of judgement people will give account for every careless word they speak, for by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned”

The point here is clear, a good tree makes good fruit and a bad tree makes bad fruit. And our words? A type of fruit.

So, while praying for control over our tongue is a good and helpful thing—even a thing demonstrated for us in the Psalms—it’s only a partial solution. We must dig into our hearts and weed out the true problem.

Back when I wrote 3 Verse to Tame your Tongue, my real issue was bitterness harbored in my heart (bitterness that manifested itself into harsh words). Only when I started rooting out the bitterness—when I released the anger, when I took responsibility for my sinful ways, and when I started striving to love my husband the way God wants me to love him—did I experience lasting change in taming my tongue.

Now, don’t get me wrong, harsh words still come out of my mouth from time to time, but it’s no longer a daily or weekly battle. That’s the power of a heart changed by the Holy Spirit.

Proverbs 4:23 says, “Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life.” (ESV) So let’s do that by praying for our heart, knowing that the words we speak flow from the heart.

4 More Bible Verses to Tame Your Tongue

*All verses are from the ESV

Psalm 51:10

“Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me.”

Ephesians 4:31-32

“Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ has forgiven you.”

Colossians 3:12-14

“Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.”

Psalm 19:14

“Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight, O LORD, my rock and my redeemer.”

I encourage you to pray these verses over your heart every day if you need to. Ask for God’s help not just to tame your tongue but to dig out the deeper heart problems as well. Then submit to His work of sanctification.

Please know this type of heart change takes time, so keep praying for your tongue as well. And when harsh words do escape your lips, apologize and keep working on your heart.

Want to know more about having a pure heart? Check out these posts.

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